I get asked all the time by my coaching clients “In my relationship, what do I do when I don’t know what to do?”  They continue, “I want to feel connected to my partner but I don’t know what to do to inspire more connection.”  In this short post, I offer 2 reliable and effective (what I call “solid gold”) strategies to have in your back pocket for the situations in which you don’t know what to do …

1. Ask your partner “What’s it like to be you right now?” 
2. Ask your partner “What’s one thing I could right now that would feel supportive?”