Coaching for Couples
My coaching approach for couples meets you where you are and focuses on your priorities.
- Are you in crisis and need to resolve some sticky issues?
- Are you facing some challenges and need support navigating them?
- Are you doing okay but want to make your relationship even better?
I focus on your priorities and needs. We track progress together to ensure you are experiencing positive shifts and maintain them over time.
What I want for you and everyone is the ease, support, trust, comfort, companionship, affection, and understanding that comes from a healthy, mutual, caring relationship! That takes relatioship skills …
What you’ll experience in a typical coaching session is that I will notice patterns in your relationship that are contributing to what is not working well, I will interrupt them, and I will support you over time (and practice) to replace them with new ones that do serve you.
What types of relationship skills?
- Empathy for your partner
- Moving past hurts and resentment
- Resolving conflicts in ways that feel intimate, collaborative, and connecting
- Collaborative decision-making
- Mutuality and shared power
- Authentic, honest sharing
- Development and fostering trust
- Caring for each other
- … and many more
Rob’s perspectives saved my marriage.
For many years I interpreted my husband’s behavior as “controlling” and “mistrustful.” So I judged him. And told him “Stop trying to control me.” Then Rob helped me to understand the behaviors as messages of care for me and fear. When I acknowledged my husband’s care and empathized with his fears, he softened and was able to hear my needs for autonomy and respect. It has made a world of difference to us!
“I have re-discovered love and joy in my marriage. After over 15 years of marriage that included raising children, I came to Rob in crisis that maybe my husband and I had drifted too far apart. Rob helped me notice the ways in which my husband and I had become stuck in unhealthy patterns, the strong foundations we had built through commitment and shared experiences, and the ways in which both of us were creating disconnection & hurt. Rob helped me decipher my husband’s behaviors and ways of communicating so I could replace my judgments with understanding and empathy. My shifts in my marriage have contributed to new opportunities for intimacy, vulnerability, and closeness.”