Pausing in the Heat of the Moment

Pausing in the Heat of the Moment

Pausing in the Heat of the Moment Pausing sounds wonderful … in a perfect world, when I am my best self, and when the issue at hand is not a big deal. How about all those other times in romantic relationships when things are messy, when I am upset, and when the...
The Power of the Pause

The Power of the Pause

The Power of the Pause “Between every stimulus and response, there is a space.”  – Vicktor Frankl When I am asked if I only had time to offer one thing to a couple to support them in making an immediate positive difference in their relationship, you may or may...
Embrace Relationship Change

Embrace Relationship Change

7 Supports to Embrace Positive Relationship Changes Have you and your partner worked together to make intentional changes to your ways of relating?  If so, how did it go? Maybe an example or two will help make this topic concrete: “Honey, would you be willing to...
6 Steps for When Annoyance or Irritation Arises

6 Steps for When Annoyance or Irritation Arises

6 Steps For When Irritation or Annoyance Arises In my relationship coaching practice, I notice a recurring obvious pattern:  Partners hurt each other when they are upset. This pattern is tragic for so many reasons.  First, I see again and again the more kind...